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The perfect handjob: handjob tips and techniques he’ll love

Of all the skills women have in their sex repertoire, the handjob is probably one they don’t do that often. Not because they have no idea how to handle his penis, but because the good old handjob lost its luster at some point. But for men, it can get really hot when the woman takes the reins on something he usually does himself. What makes the perfect handjob and how to do it properly, we reveal in the article!

The handjob is by no means just for masturbation

Tips on how women give the perfect handjob

Many think that the handjob has no place in bed and is just a way of masturbation. So why should the woman give a hand job when he can do it himself? The answer is actually quite simple – men love it when women take the initiative and pleasure them in all sorts of ways. Furthermore, some variety can never hurt and makes sex life much more exciting.

Not to mention that the handjob is one of the fastest ways to orgasm. Either way, every woman should be good with the penis and know one technique or another.

Tips for the perfect handjob

Handjob is not just about rubbing back and forth. From preparation to position to technique, there are a few tips and tricks that will help put your partner into sexual rapture right away.

Preparation is what counts

Start with a conversation about handjobs. Good sex starts with both partners knowing what they want – and being able to talk about it. The handjob, despite its “easy” nature, is no exception.

The easiest way to find out what works for him is to ask him how he likes to touch himself. Let him show you what he does when he’s alone, and watch carefully. For many women, watching their partner masturbate is very arousing. And getting into the right mood is half the battle.

For a good handjob you need lubricant

If you haven’t figured out by now that lube makes everything better, maybe you will now.

If you’re using your hands instead of your mouth or vagina, which are naturally wet, you’ll need lube to minimize friction from skin contact. The handjob will then be much, much smoother and easier for you and much more pleasurable for him. Nevertheless, some men are into the fact that the penis is not moistened at all. So better talk about it briefly in advance, so that the pleasure is guaranteed.

Of course, you don’t have to be a traditionalist when it comes to hand jobs. There’s no reason why you can’t use a little saliva to add moisture. However, you should keep in mind that saliva dries or evaporates quickly, but a good lubricant does not.

Is there a perfect position for the handjob?

Sitting, standing, lying – which position should it be? For a good handjob, it is important in the first place that the woman has good access. She should be able to move her hand back and forth for a few minutes. Furthermore, it would be an advantage if the man feels his partner on other parts of her body as well. This provides additional sexual excitement.

For example, you can hug him from behind while he is sitting so that your skin touches his back. Or you can lie very close to him and press your body firmly against his. If your boyfriend is standing, you can kneel in front of him, which is a hot thing for many men. Also in the bathroom, a handjob always goes down well.

Here it is called – try different positions to find the best for both partners.

With the right hand technique to orgasm

Now we come to the most important part – the technique. Simply rubbing usually does the trick, but you can significantly increase the fun with the right movements.

Here’s how to do it right

Start with a gentle stroking motion. Use either your fingers or your whole hand. Start at the glans and continue over the frenulum and shaft, repeating the motion a few times. If he is not circumcised, you can also play with his foreskin – just move it up and down. Kisses on erogenous zones, caressing and eye contact can make it even more exciting.

After the initial gentle movements and when the penis is already hard, you can put your whole hand around it and gradually increase the pressure. Let him tell you when it’s too much. However, you will surely be surprised how much pressure he actually wants.

Instead of going for a steady pace, change it up. Change not only the speed, but also the movement of your hands and the pressure you apply. If you want to go further, slow down again to delay the orgasm – this way it will eventually become more intense.

Use both hands

Speaking of technique, one way to get him to finish(l)off quickly (that’s the goal when your arms get tired, right?) is to involve both hands. While one hand plays with the penis shaft, the other can stimulate other regions such as the testicles or perineum.

Bringing the second hand adds excitement and stimulation right from the start. Plus, using two hands shows that you’re really trying to perform well.

Three techniques to try

  • Fist and twist: Wrap your index finger and thumb around the base of your penis. Make a fist around the shaft with the other hand and stroke up and down in twisting motions.
  • Half swirl: Grasp the penis with one hand and stroke the glans with the other hand in a circular motion.
  • Bouncing octopus: Bring your flat palm close to the head of the penis and slide your fingers down the shaft. Pull your fingers upward with pressure, as if they were tentacles grazing the shaft.

Focus on the pleasure, not the orgasm

Sometimes we focus so much on bringing him to orgasm that we miss the opportunity to notice our partner, ride his waves of pleasure, and find our own pleasure in giving. So try to slow things down, encourage communication and show your enthusiasm for pleasure.